Stepping into his daughter’s room, Roger Shafer points out that all he has done since her death was to remove the bed and replace it with a desk and computer for her son.

Kim Shafer’s porcelain dolls line a high shelf and pictures of her cats adorn a wall. Her shoes hang on a rack attached to the door and some of her clothes can be seen behind it.

“We’re just not ready,” Shafer said of going through, and possibly getting rid of, his daughter’s possessions.

Called “Wiggles” by her family, the Greenville woman had a beautiful singing voice — something her son, Adam, has inherited — and a great sense of humor. She was a cake decorator who worked at the former Tastee Bakery in Sharon, and from her home.

“She loved life. She loved to tease,” Shafer said, noting she got that trait from him.

Kim died last summer of bacterial meningitis, an infection of the spinal fluid and the fluid around the brain.

The wound of Kim’s loss was reopened when the family read about Grove City tennis coach Lorraine Gilson, 71, of Grove City, who is in serious condition in UPMC Presbyterian, Pittsburgh, with bacterial meningitis.

“When I read that article, I broke down,” Shafer, choking back tears, said of a newspaper story. “We’re very heartfelt for the lady and her family. Our thoughts and prayers are with them.”

Kim Shafer, who lived with her parents and son, had had migraine headaches all her life. On Aug. 8, she was taken to a local hospital with a headache. She was diagnosed with a migraine and given medication. She went home, but did not feel good. She did not want to go upstairs to sleep, opting for a recliner in the living room.

“I was right here with her,” her mother, Marion Shafer said, sitting in the living room. “I stayed with her all night.”

Kim had no appetite and Mrs. Shafer had to work to get her to drink juice and broth. Kim did not talk much. Mrs. Shafer said she called the emergency room where Kim had been taken and was told the medication could cause those symptoms.

“All of a sudden I couldn’t get her to respond,” Mrs. Shafer said. “I called the ambulance right away.”

Local medical personnel had Kim flown to UPMC Presbyterian. She went into a coma and was declared brain dead.

The family was told Kim would never walk, talk or smile again. She could be sustained on life support, or such measures could be stopped and Kim would likely die soon after.

Shafer, a father of five, grandfather of eight and great-grandfather of one, signed the papers to remove life support. He was one of a handful of family members who sat with her as the machines were turned off.

“It’s a horrible, horrible thing for anyone to witness,” he said.

Kim died at 10:03 p.m. Aug. 11, within an hour of the removal of life support. She was 42.

A brain autopsy revealed she had bacterial meningitis.

According to a medical report provided by her family, the meningitis inflamed her blood vessels, which caused a series of strokes, induced her coma, and led to her death.

“It all hit so fast,” Shafer said. “There was nothing we could do.”

The family still is reeling. Adam, who graduates in June from Greenville High School, has been “up and down, mostly down,” said his uncle, Jeff Shafer.

Roger Shafer finds no justice in Kim’s death.

“I watched her come into this world and was there when she went out,” he said. “Who would have expected this to happen? It’s kids who are supposed to bury the parents, not the parents burying their youngest.”

The community’s affection for Kim was shown during calling hours.

“There were people lined up out both doors” of the funeral home, Shafer said.

Shafer and his wife, who have been married for 49 years, said they have never met anyone else who had meningitis, or any family members of anyone who had the illness, which increases their empathy for Ms. Gilson and her family.

“I feel for them, I really do,” Shafer said.

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